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gaymilesedgeworth:
that’s one of the things about defining “sexual attraction” as “looking at someone and thinking that you want to fuck them”
i think lesbians in particular often have a difficult time even recognizing that what they’re experiencing is attraction?
i rarely look at a woman and think to myself “dang i want to fuck her.” it’s always more just a strong feeling, like a sense of being really drawn to her or being interested by her or enjoying her a lot, that just feels different than finding someone intriguing or cool in a platonic way.
i’ve known i liked women since i was thirteen years old and i still have a hard time recognizing when i feel attracted to a woman! on more than one occasion i have misinterpreted those feelings as intense dislike or outright HATRED. sometimes i’ll walk by a woman and think to myself “i wonder why i found her so interesting to look at,” before remembering that i’m a big fucking lesbian
it’s just a very internal and subjective personal experience that won’t be the same for everyone and attempting to concretely define it or dissect it into discrete parts is always going to be a fool’s errand
Absolutely my experience.
Attraction to another woman is so often described as ‘girlcrush’, it took me until my early twenties to really confirm that yes, I was bisexual. Even now, I sometimes struggle - there’s a reason ‘life goal or wife goal’ is something I commonly wail on tumblr posts. Unpacking those years of general expectation that yes I should aspire to be like this person, yes I should envy that person’s clothes/hair/outlook on life, yes I should want to be this person…it’s something I still struggle with.
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gaymilesedgeworth:
that’s one of the things about defining “sexual attraction” as “looking at someone and thinking that you want to fuck them”
i think lesbians in particular often have a difficult time even recognizing that what they’re experiencing is attraction?
i rarely look at a woman and think to myself “dang i want to fuck her.” it’s always more just a strong feeling, like a sense of being really drawn to her or being interested by her or enjoying her a lot, that just feels different than finding someone intriguing or cool in a platonic way.
i’ve known i liked women since i was thirteen years old and i still have a hard time recognizing when i feel attracted to a woman! on more than one occasion i have misinterpreted those feelings as intense dislike or outright HATRED. sometimes i’ll walk by a woman and think to myself “i wonder why i found her so interesting to look at,” before remembering that i’m a big fucking lesbian
it’s just a very internal and subjective personal experience that won’t be the same for everyone and attempting to concretely define it or dissect it into discrete parts is always going to be a fool’s errand
Absolutely my experience.
Attraction to another woman is so often described as ‘girlcrush’, it took me until my early twenties to really confirm that yes, I was bisexual. Even now, I sometimes struggle - there’s a reason ‘life goal or wife goal’ is something I commonly wail on tumblr posts. Unpacking those years of general expectation that yes I should aspire to be like this person, yes I should envy that person’s clothes/hair/outlook on life, yes I should want to be this person…it’s something I still struggle with.
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