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Let me set the scene for you a little. First of all, the catsuit made me HYPER AWARE of my body, and hyper aware of anyone in proximity of said body. My body issues/food issues immediately reared their ugly heads and my mind started a long, silent monologue to me of every little thing I’d eaten in the past 48 hours. FUN! Mostly, I just feel WEIRD; if you haven’t had your entire body enclosed in tight cheap pleather for over 5 hours you are missing nothing! I knew the costume was a part of my job, but it’s hella strange to know that the people you work with everyday are never again going to have to ask themselves “I wonder what Stephanie’s butt ACTUALLY looks like?”
So I get to set , and immediately see Andy Samberg, who plays detective Jake Peralta on Brooklyn Nine Nine. Andy starts talking to me about the weekend, about the scene, just normal shooting-the-shit stuff. As soon as we start filming, he is utterly respectful and says not a damn thing about the costume. We joke that the set we are shooting on, a parked bus on a sound stage, is boiling hot. Andre Braugher, who plays Captain Ray Holt, joins in on our convo and then we three start laughing about something: I can’t remember what. What I do remember is how those two men made me feel. I felt utterly respected I their presence. I felt like an equal.
It dawned on me that I am super lucky. FDF’s don’t exists for everyone, and that’s a damn shame. It feels so epically good to know that the dude standing across from you respects you and wants you to know he does. And he’ll show it too! An FDF don’t mess around — he’ll make sure you KNOW how much he thinks of you as an equal. He’ll compliment you on what you say, not just how you look. He’ll listen to your ideas and thoughts, he won’t just brush you off like you don’t have anything important to voice. He won’t stare at your boobs even if they are RIGHT IN HIS FACE. Instead, he’ll stare at your face as he jokes with you about anything other than your boobs.
Women deserve to have those type of FDF’s. It’s hard enough to face a world that is constantly measuring your desirability without hearing those measurements come from the men in your life. I’m so utterly grateful for men like Andy and Andre. They always make me feel like an equal, and that’s what feminism is all about. Simply put, FDF’s treat you like you should be treated; as an equal. Even if you’re wearing a ridiculous pleather catsuit.
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Stephanie Beatriz on wearing a pleather catsuit on set and her FDF’s: Feminist Dude Friends.
(via angelgazing)
As much as I love this show, it warms my heart SO MUCH MORE to know that Andy Samberg treats her with respect behind the scenes and off camera; he’s the main driving force behind this show, and his attitude towards women shapes not only the content of the show but also the surrounding environment for those women to work within- that’s an incredible amount of power and influence to have on a TON of people! To top it off, he’s a comedian, which means it would be so easy for him to just play subtle sexism off as ‘a joke’ like so many of them do. And he doesn’t take that easy, lazy road. So hats off to Andy and all the amazing people of Brooklyn 99 for making such a stellar show and being awesome people to boot!
(via unicornempire)
“
Let me set the scene for you a little. First of all, the catsuit made me HYPER AWARE of my body, and hyper aware of anyone in proximity of said body. My body issues/food issues immediately reared their ugly heads and my mind started a long, silent monologue to me of every little thing I’d eaten in the past 48 hours. FUN! Mostly, I just feel WEIRD; if you haven’t had your entire body enclosed in tight cheap pleather for over 5 hours you are missing nothing! I knew the costume was a part of my job, but it’s hella strange to know that the people you work with everyday are never again going to have to ask themselves “I wonder what Stephanie’s butt ACTUALLY looks like?”
So I get to set , and immediately see Andy Samberg, who plays detective Jake Peralta on Brooklyn Nine Nine. Andy starts talking to me about the weekend, about the scene, just normal shooting-the-shit stuff. As soon as we start filming, he is utterly respectful and says not a damn thing about the costume. We joke that the set we are shooting on, a parked bus on a sound stage, is boiling hot. Andre Braugher, who plays Captain Ray Holt, joins in on our convo and then we three start laughing about something: I can’t remember what. What I do remember is how those two men made me feel. I felt utterly respected I their presence. I felt like an equal.
It dawned on me that I am super lucky. FDF’s don’t exists for everyone, and that’s a damn shame. It feels so epically good to know that the dude standing across from you respects you and wants you to know he does. And he’ll show it too! An FDF don’t mess around — he’ll make sure you KNOW how much he thinks of you as an equal. He’ll compliment you on what you say, not just how you look. He’ll listen to your ideas and thoughts, he won’t just brush you off like you don’t have anything important to voice. He won’t stare at your boobs even if they are RIGHT IN HIS FACE. Instead, he’ll stare at your face as he jokes with you about anything other than your boobs.
Women deserve to have those type of FDF’s. It’s hard enough to face a world that is constantly measuring your desirability without hearing those measurements come from the men in your life. I’m so utterly grateful for men like Andy and Andre. They always make me feel like an equal, and that’s what feminism is all about. Simply put, FDF’s treat you like you should be treated; as an equal. Even if you’re wearing a ridiculous pleather catsuit.
”
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Stephanie Beatriz on wearing a pleather catsuit on set and her FDF’s: Feminist Dude Friends.
(via angelgazing)
As much as I love this show, it warms my heart SO MUCH MORE to know that Andy Samberg treats her with respect behind the scenes and off camera; he’s the main driving force behind this show, and his attitude towards women shapes not only the content of the show but also the surrounding environment for those women to work within- that’s an incredible amount of power and influence to have on a TON of people! To top it off, he’s a comedian, which means it would be so easy for him to just play subtle sexism off as ‘a joke’ like so many of them do. And he doesn’t take that easy, lazy road. So hats off to Andy and all the amazing people of Brooklyn 99 for making such a stellar show and being awesome people to boot!
(via unicornempire)
