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Aug. 18th, 2017
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I had this in my askbox for AGES because I have been “vacationing” with my dad (who broke his hip a few months back and needs a lot of help, so it was a lot of work but the fulfilling kind where you’re hanging with your fave family member but also the stress of being a caregiver, you know). BUT I AM READY NOW.
So as a preface, I have chosen to ignore the rape plotline from Buffy/Spike because I think it was an incredibly poor choice on Joss’s part and it was specifically intended to disrupt the superiority of Buffy/Spike as a ship because Joss was super uncomfortable with what he had wrought.
Basically: Buffy/Angel is s u c h a cliche. Even though the rash of vampire ~epic romances seemed to come after BtVS (as in, it would be easy to assume causality BUT RESIST THAT URGE), the whole thing just reeks of the toxic heteronormative shit other vampire romances (COUGH Twilight COUGH) are guilty of. It’s got the same building blocks: teenage girl and MUCH older dude, older dude grooms teenager to be his ~savior, older dude hurts/abuses teenager when she allows herself too much physical pleasure (SEX, JOSS, IT’S ALLOWED, JESUS H FRICKING CHRIST), all the rhetoric of ~one true love but she’s (I REPEAT) a teenager. Super toxic shit. Do NOT listen to Joss on this one. And the fact that Xander’s presented as the non-toxic alternative in the early seasons is just fuel to the toxic fire. They’re ALL bad for Buffy. It’s a bad message for teenage girls about their sexuality.
But Spike/Buffy? That relationship is grounded in Buffy’s pursuit of her own physical pleasure and uncomplicated enjoyment. She pursues Spike in the Kirk style: because he’s willing and she’s wanting. They are enthusiastically consenting adults pursuing a physical relationship. The physicality evolves over time into an intimacy that is bound by Spike’s independent self-improvement. He aims to be better because of his involvement with her, he does not expect (or pressure her) to be his redemption. I loved the fact that his soul quest happened without Buffy. He pursued self-improvement because he had discovered the benefits of the new lifestyle, not because she had to save him.
Plus, Spike’s love of Buffy is entirely disconnected from demanding things from her, as we see in the finale of the show. He does not expect even a return of his affections, it’s enough to love her and improve himself towards a new ideal.
Buffy is a hero. She’s busy.
This girl has no time to be running around making men into her equals (which, btw, is also the narrative that the Riley/Buffy story followed). Spike does not require that of her. He is devoted to her. She, as the hero of the narrative (like so many epic male narratives before her but so few ones with a female center), has bigger conceptual and narrative things to worry about. Spike is the Penelope to her Odysseus.
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I had this in my askbox for AGES because I have been “vacationing” with my dad (who broke his hip a few months back and needs a lot of help, so it was a lot of work but the fulfilling kind where you’re hanging with your fave family member but also the stress of being a caregiver, you know). BUT I AM READY NOW.
So as a preface, I have chosen to ignore the rape plotline from Buffy/Spike because I think it was an incredibly poor choice on Joss’s part and it was specifically intended to disrupt the superiority of Buffy/Spike as a ship because Joss was super uncomfortable with what he had wrought.
Basically: Buffy/Angel is s u c h a cliche. Even though the rash of vampire ~epic romances seemed to come after BtVS (as in, it would be easy to assume causality BUT RESIST THAT URGE), the whole thing just reeks of the toxic heteronormative shit other vampire romances (COUGH Twilight COUGH) are guilty of. It’s got the same building blocks: teenage girl and MUCH older dude, older dude grooms teenager to be his ~savior, older dude hurts/abuses teenager when she allows herself too much physical pleasure (SEX, JOSS, IT’S ALLOWED, JESUS H FRICKING CHRIST), all the rhetoric of ~one true love but she’s (I REPEAT) a teenager. Super toxic shit. Do NOT listen to Joss on this one. And the fact that Xander’s presented as the non-toxic alternative in the early seasons is just fuel to the toxic fire. They’re ALL bad for Buffy. It’s a bad message for teenage girls about their sexuality.
But Spike/Buffy? That relationship is grounded in Buffy’s pursuit of her own physical pleasure and uncomplicated enjoyment. She pursues Spike in the Kirk style: because he’s willing and she’s wanting. They are enthusiastically consenting adults pursuing a physical relationship. The physicality evolves over time into an intimacy that is bound by Spike’s independent self-improvement. He aims to be better because of his involvement with her, he does not expect (or pressure her) to be his redemption. I loved the fact that his soul quest happened without Buffy. He pursued self-improvement because he had discovered the benefits of the new lifestyle, not because she had to save him.
Plus, Spike’s love of Buffy is entirely disconnected from demanding things from her, as we see in the finale of the show. He does not expect even a return of his affections, it’s enough to love her and improve himself towards a new ideal.
Buffy is a hero. She’s busy.
This girl has no time to be running around making men into her equals (which, btw, is also the narrative that the Riley/Buffy story followed). Spike does not require that of her. He is devoted to her. She, as the hero of the narrative (like so many epic male narratives before her but so few ones with a female center), has bigger conceptual and narrative things to worry about. Spike is the Penelope to her Odysseus.
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Baked sneks…nearly at the painting stage! #itsjustabunchofhocuspocus #halloween
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Baked sneks…nearly at the painting stage! #itsjustabunchofhocuspocus #halloween
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youthoughtiwasasleepdidntyou:
If you ever needed something to sum up the British in times of crisis, there you have it.
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youthoughtiwasasleepdidntyou:
If you ever needed something to sum up the British in times of crisis, there you have it.
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defilerwyrm:
got-doctor:
defilerwyrm:
Let people grow.
When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.
There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.
But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.
You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.
It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”
Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.
Still call it out and question it ….
Bruh. No. Listen. Call out what people do now, absolutely. If they haven’t changed, call them out on their record. This post is explicitly not about people who HAVEN’T changed. What this post IS saying is, if someone is making an effort to be a good person, don’t go digging around in their past for evidence that they were once for what they’re now against, or once against what they’re now for, as “proof” of what they “really think,” because people’s opinions and beliefs can change.
The obsession with finding shit in someone’s past and then claiming that a questionable or even sordid past negates all possibility of a good present needs to become extinct. Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.
If someone has changed for the better, don’t harass them about what they were like before they fuckin’ changed. That’s shitty and it needs to stop.
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defilerwyrm:
got-doctor:
defilerwyrm:
Let people grow.
When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.
There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.
But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.
You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.
It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”
Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.
Still call it out and question it ….
Bruh. No. Listen. Call out what people do now, absolutely. If they haven’t changed, call them out on their record. This post is explicitly not about people who HAVEN’T changed. What this post IS saying is, if someone is making an effort to be a good person, don’t go digging around in their past for evidence that they were once for what they’re now against, or once against what they’re now for, as “proof” of what they “really think,” because people’s opinions and beliefs can change.
The obsession with finding shit in someone’s past and then claiming that a questionable or even sordid past negates all possibility of a good present needs to become extinct. Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.
If someone has changed for the better, don’t harass them about what they were like before they fuckin’ changed. That’s shitty and it needs to stop.
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seananmcguire:
violent-darts:
babyanimalgifs:
I didn’t know cheetahs meow I’ve always thought they roar my whole life has been a lie
Still more and more convinced that the Saharan civilization got interrupted halfway through domesticating the cheetah. If not like three quarters.
I genuinely feel we have an ethical duty to finish the job.
He’s doing his best impression of Chewbacca
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seananmcguire:
violent-darts:
babyanimalgifs:
I didn’t know cheetahs meow I’ve always thought they roar my whole life has been a lie
Still more and more convinced that the Saharan civilization got interrupted halfway through domesticating the cheetah. If not like three quarters.
I genuinely feel we have an ethical duty to finish the job.
He’s doing his best impression of Chewbacca
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Person: I like this thing!
Aug. 18th, 2017 07:55 pmvia http://ift.tt/2vLrn7Y:
Person: I like this thing!
A Tumbl: but thing has Bad Part so you are allowed to like None Of It
Person: But thing has Good Part that I have good memories of and is meaningful to me and helped me through a difficult time and I learned something new/important about myself and the world around me through experiencing it
A Tumbl: but it has Bad Part which makes Good Part not count
Person: But I agree that Bad Part is Bad and that's why I don't like that one Part
A Tumbl: then why do you not have Disapproval of Bad Part tattooed on your face so that I automatically know all of your Proper Denouncements when I meet you
Person: ...Can't I just like thing without introducing myself with a detailed manifesto about my personal endorsement and/or condemnation about every potentially controversial Part of thing to every single person I meet?
Person: Can't we agree that all Thing (and People) are complex and multi-faceted and will always contain both Good Part and Bad Part?
A Tumbl:
A Tumbl: no
A Tumbl: if one Bad Part then all Bad Part forever and not allowed to talk about Good Part ever again
Person: why
A Tumbl: to stop literally all Bad everywhere in the world and time now and the rest of forever
Person: okay good luck with that
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Person: I like this thing!
A Tumbl: but thing has Bad Part so you are allowed to like None Of It
Person: But thing has Good Part that I have good memories of and is meaningful to me and helped me through a difficult time and I learned something new/important about myself and the world around me through experiencing it
A Tumbl: but it has Bad Part which makes Good Part not count
Person: But I agree that Bad Part is Bad and that's why I don't like that one Part
A Tumbl: then why do you not have Disapproval of Bad Part tattooed on your face so that I automatically know all of your Proper Denouncements when I meet you
Person: ...Can't I just like thing without introducing myself with a detailed manifesto about my personal endorsement and/or condemnation about every potentially controversial Part of thing to every single person I meet?
Person: Can't we agree that all Thing (and People) are complex and multi-faceted and will always contain both Good Part and Bad Part?
A Tumbl:
A Tumbl: no
A Tumbl: if one Bad Part then all Bad Part forever and not allowed to talk about Good Part ever again
Person: why
A Tumbl: to stop literally all Bad everywhere in the world and time now and the rest of forever
Person: okay good luck with that
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zhenzidan:
John Proudstar (Thunderbird) in the SDCC The Gifted Trailer
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zhenzidan:
John Proudstar (Thunderbird) in the SDCC The Gifted Trailer
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Reblog if you're here, you're queer,
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schizoauthoress:
and exclusionary “it’s a slur!” hand-wringers better get fucking used to it.
Because we’ve always been here, and we’re always gonna BE.
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schizoauthoress:
and exclusionary “it’s a slur!” hand-wringers better get fucking used to it.
Because we’ve always been here, and we’re always gonna BE.
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