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Oct. 13th, 2016
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braveremus:
Whenever Hagrid finally decides to retire as Care of Magical Creatures professor you can bet your last knut that Charlie Weasley flies back to England the following week excitedly waving his resume and recommendation letters from no less than two Scamanders and the Minister of Magic, Hermione Granger.
braveremus:
Whenever Hagrid finally decides to retire as Care of Magical Creatures professor you can bet your last knut that Charlie Weasley flies back to England the following week excitedly waving his resume and recommendation letters from no less than two Scamanders and the Minister of Magic, Hermione Granger.
Things only bullied kids will understand
Oct. 13th, 2016 06:16 pmvia http://ift.tt/2e0RBva:
apocalyptic-genderspoopy:
dragonlioness:
captaindibbzy:
metal-queer-solid:
sasunaru-relationship:
genderjuice:
just-another-dream:
azelfandfriends:
rinlockhart:
queen-squids:
leigh-daniel-sexbang:
pro-punk-anti-sjw:
-Beliving that none of your friends actually want to be your friend and they hate being near you
-Hating normal things because they were used to mock you
-Having to seek constant validation for your existance
-Remembering particular insults you’ve been called for years and will probably never forget them
-Beliving you’re too ugly for anyone to ever love
-Not wanting to go to a new school/further education because you know the same thing will happen there
-Having your parents tell you that you’re only being ‘teased’
-Having people wash their hands in disgust if they accidentally touch you.
Remember, you don’t have to feel all of these to understand
-Having people say you like someone as a way to gross that someone out
-Never quite trusting anyone.
-Having people ask you out as a dare
-”They’re only making fun of you ‘cause they’re jealous!”
-”He’s only mean to you ‘cause he’s got a crush on you!”
-Having to deal with bullshit ‘zero tolerance’ policies
-”hey, my friend thinks you’re cute!”
This. I dealt with almost all of this bullshit all my life and it still haunts me today…
-being unable to process genuine acceptance and compliments when you finally get them
-fear emotional intimacy will result in betrayal
- being hyper aware of specific body parts you got bullied for & intensively hating them even when its been like 10 years
- never really missing your childhood or wanting to go back
- just straight up thinking youre below everyone and have less worth and having that issue so ingrained to your very being that you never even realise how big of an issue it is
- never ever feeling like you belong anywhere
- The bitter laugh you have when people tell you “School isn’t only for learning, it’s also for socialization”
- When someone tells you “Maybe you were asking for it” (”You were arrogant”, “you were passive”)
Being afraid to talk to anyone because when you were a kid your speech impediment was pointed out and insulted by everyone.
Learning to stand still and be as emotionless as possible when people approach you so you don’t give any sign of encouragement.
Hearing people tell you over and over that “these are the best years of your life” or “It’s all down hill from here” and trying not to cry.
Having to unlearn certain biases because you associated them with the people who bullied you, that you’ve used them as early warnings for the people you need to avoid.
Having teachers telling you to change your behaviour to stop the bullies, rather than telling the bullies to stop their behaviour.
Still having nightmares over 10 years later.
Still avoiding certain area’s because bullies lived there, and they might still live there, and you don’t want to risk seeing them.
Having two settings when it comes to arguments: “Ready for full scale combat,” or “Shutting down completely.”
“Don’t give them any ammunition! You wouldn’t hand a box of bullets to someone chasing and shooting you, would you?”
“Just ignore them, they’re just trying tying to get a rise out of you.”
Having to resort to recording devices and writing down everything that ever happened in order for teachers to do absolutely anything about it
Bully weeping when having Meeting to stop the bullying.
Bullies using zero tolerance policies to get you in trouble with them, or more than them
Rumors that don’t dissipate after 5+ years and moving schools
“Oh I was autistic the whole time no wonder they hated me”
Let’s not forget “parents/teachers punishing YOU for wasting their time if you found the courage to come forward about it.”
Or how about a childhood of being bullied setting you up for an adulthood of seeking out abusive relationships because it might not be comfortable but at least it’s familiar.
apocalyptic-genderspoopy:
dragonlioness:
captaindibbzy:
metal-queer-solid:
sasunaru-relationship:
genderjuice:
just-another-dream:
azelfandfriends:
rinlockhart:
queen-squids:
leigh-daniel-sexbang:
pro-punk-anti-sjw:
-Beliving that none of your friends actually want to be your friend and they hate being near you
-Hating normal things because they were used to mock you
-Having to seek constant validation for your existance
-Remembering particular insults you’ve been called for years and will probably never forget them
-Beliving you’re too ugly for anyone to ever love
-Not wanting to go to a new school/further education because you know the same thing will happen there
-Having your parents tell you that you’re only being ‘teased’
-Having people wash their hands in disgust if they accidentally touch you.
Remember, you don’t have to feel all of these to understand
-Having people say you like someone as a way to gross that someone out
-Never quite trusting anyone.
-Having people ask you out as a dare
-”They’re only making fun of you ‘cause they’re jealous!”
-”He’s only mean to you ‘cause he’s got a crush on you!”
-Having to deal with bullshit ‘zero tolerance’ policies
-”hey, my friend thinks you’re cute!”
This. I dealt with almost all of this bullshit all my life and it still haunts me today…
-being unable to process genuine acceptance and compliments when you finally get them
-fear emotional intimacy will result in betrayal
- being hyper aware of specific body parts you got bullied for & intensively hating them even when its been like 10 years
- never really missing your childhood or wanting to go back
- just straight up thinking youre below everyone and have less worth and having that issue so ingrained to your very being that you never even realise how big of an issue it is
- never ever feeling like you belong anywhere
- The bitter laugh you have when people tell you “School isn’t only for learning, it’s also for socialization”
- When someone tells you “Maybe you were asking for it” (”You were arrogant”, “you were passive”)
Being afraid to talk to anyone because when you were a kid your speech impediment was pointed out and insulted by everyone.
Learning to stand still and be as emotionless as possible when people approach you so you don’t give any sign of encouragement.
Hearing people tell you over and over that “these are the best years of your life” or “It’s all down hill from here” and trying not to cry.
Having to unlearn certain biases because you associated them with the people who bullied you, that you’ve used them as early warnings for the people you need to avoid.
Having teachers telling you to change your behaviour to stop the bullies, rather than telling the bullies to stop their behaviour.
Still having nightmares over 10 years later.
Still avoiding certain area’s because bullies lived there, and they might still live there, and you don’t want to risk seeing them.
Having two settings when it comes to arguments: “Ready for full scale combat,” or “Shutting down completely.”
“Don’t give them any ammunition! You wouldn’t hand a box of bullets to someone chasing and shooting you, would you?”
“Just ignore them, they’re just trying tying to get a rise out of you.”
Having to resort to recording devices and writing down everything that ever happened in order for teachers to do absolutely anything about it
Bully weeping when having Meeting to stop the bullying.
Bullies using zero tolerance policies to get you in trouble with them, or more than them
Rumors that don’t dissipate after 5+ years and moving schools
“Oh I was autistic the whole time no wonder they hated me”
Let’s not forget “parents/teachers punishing YOU for wasting their time if you found the courage to come forward about it.”
Or how about a childhood of being bullied setting you up for an adulthood of seeking out abusive relationships because it might not be comfortable but at least it’s familiar.
