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dianmz:
bujnik:
psych-book-quotes-blog:
Here’s a good, but not exhaustive, sampling:
1. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will make them feel burdened.
2. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will chase them away.
3. If you let other people see how you feel, they will use it against you.
4. Sharing your feelings with others will make you look weak.
5. Letting others see your weaknesses puts you at a disadvantage.
6. It’s best not to fight if you want to have a good relationship.
7. Talking about a problem isn’t helpful. Only action solves a problem.
Fortunately, not one of these beliefs is true. In fact, they are each and every one dead wrong. (The only exception is if you share your feelings with another emotionally neglected person, who may not have any idea how to respond). When you grow up receiving consistent direct or indirect messages that you should keep your feelings to yourself, it is natural to assume that those feelings are burdensome and undesirable to others.
My relationship is healthy and rock solid but every single one of these rings true.
The last point (#7) though….
I don’t even remember how many arguments I had gotten myself into with my parents because “why do I have to talk about my problem if you can’t offer me any tangible help? I could instead use the ‘chatting up time’ to solve the problem on my own. Efficient, eh?”
*Throws myself into the fire*
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dianmz:
bujnik:
psych-book-quotes-blog:
Here’s a good, but not exhaustive, sampling:
1. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will make them feel burdened.
2. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will chase them away.
3. If you let other people see how you feel, they will use it against you.
4. Sharing your feelings with others will make you look weak.
5. Letting others see your weaknesses puts you at a disadvantage.
6. It’s best not to fight if you want to have a good relationship.
7. Talking about a problem isn’t helpful. Only action solves a problem.
Fortunately, not one of these beliefs is true. In fact, they are each and every one dead wrong. (The only exception is if you share your feelings with another emotionally neglected person, who may not have any idea how to respond). When you grow up receiving consistent direct or indirect messages that you should keep your feelings to yourself, it is natural to assume that those feelings are burdensome and undesirable to others.
My relationship is healthy and rock solid but every single one of these rings true.
The last point (#7) though….
I don’t even remember how many arguments I had gotten myself into with my parents because “why do I have to talk about my problem if you can’t offer me any tangible help? I could instead use the ‘chatting up time’ to solve the problem on my own. Efficient, eh?”
*Throws myself into the fire*
(Your picture was not posted)
